Do You Really Give The Love Your Partner Needs?

Adi Miguel

May 17, 2016

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  People will always have their own ways of expressing love to the people their heart beats for. It is important in a relationship that you know each other’s love language.

  According to Gary Chapman (focusonthefamily.com), love language are the ways people speak and understand emotional love.

  By understanding the love language, we can express the right love our partners really need and wanted to receive.

  Quality Time

  For someone who values personal time together or quality time, you have to make sure to give your full attention to him/her whenever you are with each other.

  The internet is one of the greatest distractions. Your habit of scrolling up and down on Facebook and Twitter can hinder the moments that you should be cherishing.

  It’s not every day that you’re together, so seize these moments. It is highly recommended that you silence your phone for a moment and put it inside your bag. For sure your messages and notifications can wait.

  People who loves quality time are very simple. They just want to be with you. They just want to feel that you are not only physically together but also emotionally. Focus and cherish the moments. Not everyone is privileged to be with his/her partner often.

  

  Words of Affirmation

  To some peeps, love is not always based on actions. Other people feels loved through words. You just really have to melt their heart with sweet words, kindness, and compliments.

  Avoid telling generic praises such as, “you are awesome” or “you look great.” People, whose love language are words of affirmation, wants to be dealt personally. They appreciate when you the little things they do to their selves. For example, she wears a dress, “You’re stunning in that pink dress. For sure, it’s not only me who’ll notice it.”

  They are also attracted when you are extra kind to the people around you. When you say “thank you”, “sorry”, “excuse me”, they will feel safe with you.

  

  Physical Touch

  Let’s clear things out. Not everyone, whose love language is physical touch most likely wants to be under the sheets. It’s not like that. Physical touch (on language of love) is different from sexual stuff. Because there are physical touches that won’t really get you naked.

  For guys, touching the little of their back when you open the door for her is a way to express your love. Even when you hold each others’ hands while you walk or just randomly rubbing her shoulder is an expression of affection.

  On the other hand, women loves it when guys caress their hair. They feel appreciated and taken care of. And when you hold their hands for a moment while driving, they feel secured.

  Your little ways to get linked through your body can be a way of showing how much you love your partner. And when you get on bed, it’s more of cuddling and impromptu rubs.

  

  Receiving Gifts

  Someone whose love language is receiving gifts is not materialistic. It’s not about the item that you give them. It’s actually the thought that counts for them. They appreciate it so much when you hand them the littlest thing and it just reminds them of you.

  For couples, it’s best to know the little things that your partner really loves. May it be her favorite lip balm, or his favorite flavor of condom, or her superhero stuff toy when she was in grade school, these things are more than being an item. It’s the fact that you remember them when you see these things and give it to them. :)

  

  Acts of Service

  And in some cases, action speaks so much louder than words. Over compliments, roses, chocolates, some would appreciate that you wake up an hour earlier than the usual to prepare breakfast for them!

  This is where the A for effort gets in the way.

  If you think your morning message will give your partner a smile, it will surely complete his/her day if you’ll leave a letter on his/her table. Doing the things that you don’t usually do is the key to his/her heart.  Especially if you’re doing it personally for him/her.

  So the next time that you’ll dine out, you might just want to try home cooking with candle lights and a bottle of wine than a fancy resto. :)

  

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