What If Your Partner Is Not Virgin Anymore Before You Got Together?

Adi Miguel

February 24, 2017

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  If you are living in a very conservative society, you would know that the teachings about sex is to do it within the grounds of marriage.

  However, every day the society gets more and more liberated. We get to have defenses and justifications about this topic. We now stand in the thought that, as long as love is there it’s what really matters. But if someone has a strong conservative life principles, will love be the only important thing in relationships?

  We asked several people this question:

  What if your partner is not a virgin anymore before you got together?

  And it’s surprising to know, that we’re not even almost in the same page about it.

  1. “Okay lang. Basta mahal ko at mahal ako.”

  One of the most common answers about this topic. We’re in the age where love is stronger and love wins! Not that it’s okay to get hungry as long as you’re in love with each other. No, not that kind. But it’s the time where majority has understood that love must be fought for. That above everything, it’s love. Regardless of the flaws and past.

  In this kind of love, what matters is now.

  2. “Basta walang anak.”

  But there are some who still won’t bear your baggage. Virginity is not an issue but if the past has brought something at the present, it’s a no. The past will not be a part of the deal.

  Nothing against these people but they just can’t accept what happened before. And they are not forced to accept your baggage. They are not compelled to bear it, after all, it’s not theirs. It’s just that there are some successful stories where the situation worked well. But it’s not always like that. Well, that’s reality.

  3. “Depende kung naka-ilan na.”

  To some, the number of the person you made love with is big deal. Somehow, they have this feeling that they are not secured if that was your case. They have this thought that like sex is just a thing for you. But there will surely be someone who will and can look past the number of sex you had because they cling on one thing….LOVE.

  4. “Basta malinis, walang sakit.”

  And there will be someone who is concern about health. Well, everyone should be, especially now that there’s no accurate cure for HIV/AIDS. This one is very reasonable. Though, it’s awkward to ask this matter. But we have to be open about things like this. Health is wealth, always.

  5. “Gusto ko pa rin una ‘ko.”

  Finally, there will be people who do not find this ideal. They still want to be their partners’ “first”. Well, they must know that they should be deserving of what they want. It would take them the same thing if they want someone virgin and no sexual deeds yet.

  One of the reasons why they’re have this kind of stand is because they feel insecure and they feel that their partners are not doing it purely. Or not doing it raw. It’s like everything’s already fabricated because there was someone before them.

  Well, we all have different takes on this matter.

  But what is important is that our relationships must always meet halfway and not always compromising. It will always take you understanding, accepting, embracing, and loving when you’re in a relationship.

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