The truth about having high standards in love.

Troyka Lunar

April 16, 2021

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  “I find it hard to be in a relationship because no one meets my standards, yet.”

  So, who’s at fault now? Is it your potential partner’s fault? Or is it yours? Having high standards when looking for a partner isn’t wrong. It’s never a mistake. It is in fact, right because that means that you value yourself. Setting a high standard for your potential lover only goes to show that you know what you want, and what you deserve.

  You will never be at fault for having high standards because it only means that you already know what will make you feel happy and content at the moment.

  So, when does having high standards start to take offense?

  Have you ever dated someone and ended up not pursuing that person just because of a failure to meet two out of the many standards that you have set? If it happens to you often, you might want to think and re-think. Maybe your standards are already too high that it already becomes out of anybody’s reach. That at some point, it already makes other people feel that they are in fact, the problem; that they are hard to love.

  Guess what? It doesn’t work that way. One day, you will come to realize that you have pushed a lot of people away. You had someone who accepted you for who you are, yet you chose to let that person go just because of something that did not suit your standards. You just had a chance to be with someone who will love you unconditionally, even when you become hard to love, but you threw them all away.

  It is never wrong to have high standards when it comes to love. But you also have to understand that love isn’t all about what your ideal trait is. You have to remember that if there is one certain thing in this world, it is uncertainty. Nothing stays the same forever. Whether you like it or not, something will change eventually. If you only loved someone just because that person has met all your standards, what happens on the days when your partner does not manifest the best version of himself? How can your love be sincere when the beauty that you once loved has already faded?

  Love is supposed to be unconditional. You do not love only the beautiful parts. You are supposed to love more when the ugly truth is already right in front of your face.

  When you love someone, it’s not enough that you accept what your partner has to give. It is also a must that you understand what your partner is not capable of giving. Love is not just about having fun, being happy, and all its beautiful parts. Being in a relationship is not only about what your partner has. It’s about how you compromise on what both of you don’t have to make your relationship work. You have to keep in mind that loving someone means choosing them every day and loving them unconditionally.

  It is never wrong to set your standards high. But one day, you will meet someone who will defy all of what you have laid down. And you will see yourself already looking beyond all the reasons and excuses that you once had. You will come to realize that this person has hit you straight in your heart. When that time comes, please never let that person go. Choose that person every day, even when you are about to reach the point where staying in love becomes hard to do.

  Celebrate your love every day.

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